What makes a sex position worthy of being deemed one of the absolute best sex positions is really subjective. We all have different sexual fantasies, desires, and preferences, after all. It also depends on what you want out of sex. Sometimes, you just want to get down and dirty; other times, you want to feel closer to your partner, both physically and emotionally, and still other times, you may want to achieve both of those goals at once.
However, if you’re specifically looking to prioritise intimacy during sex, focusing on a handful of extra-sensual sex positions can help you get there.
To get you feeling an intense connection in a way that brings pleasure to everyone involved, we asked sex experts to share the best sex positions to boost intimacy. Like most things in life, you’ll notice that some of the simplest sex positions really are top-notch for fostering a sense of closeness between partners.
Read on for the positions the experts suggest, plus some pro tips for making them even more stimulating.
Spooning is a fan favourite of many in the bedroom, and it’s no wonder why. “It’s a great way to connect with your partner in a comforting way,” Megwyn White, director of education at Satisfyer, says. “The full-body contact creates a deep yet exciting connection.” She notes that it’s a great position for couples of all sexual orientations and gender identities.
Unlike many of the other positions on this list, spooning does not allow for direct eye contact. However, the full-body skin-on-skin contact creates an undeniable, all-over physical closeness—with some room to play. “It can be modified with many variations to keep it exciting, including the use of products and the ability to use the hands for further exploration and sensation,” White says. “This position can be as intense or intimate as you please, which opens the door for creativity.”
Hot tip: “Doing it in front of a mirror for added eye contact can make it even better,” Zhana Vrangalova, Ph.D., adjunct professor of human sexuality at New York University and expert for sex toy brand Lelo, says.
It’s a classic for a reason. Not only is missionary another great option for all types of couples, but it’s the easiest way to make intense, direct eye contact with your partner as you experience every kiss and touch. Speaking of which, missionary makes kissing and touching a whole lot easier, Dr. Vrangalova points out. “And there are lots of opportunities for skin-to-skin contact.”
You also get the added bonus of being able to share all kinds of nonverbal cues with one another through facial expressions.
For couples looking to change things up from the regular missionary position, adding the extra boost of one person wrapping their legs around the other’s back for deeper penetration is guaranteed to make you feel incredibly close to your partner. “You're literally hugging each other while having penetrative sex and with your faces really close to each other,” Dr. Vrangalova says. “It's super intimate.”